Do you reward yourself with foods?
Many years ago, I was working with a client who was really struggling with cravings.
She’d say, “I’d be so good during the day and then in the evening, I’d crave pizza for dinner.”
I asked her where she thought this was coming from.
She thought about it. And then, her face lit up and she said:
“Oh my God, Laure, I just got it!”
”Growing up, I lived and went to school in a low socioeconomic area.
And whenever I did well in school, whenever I showed how smart I was, the teacher would reward me with a coupon to go get a slice of pizza. This was such a treat for me!”
“I just now realized that today, whenever I do something right, or I’m being ‘good’ and I’m so proud of myself, immediately I feel like, oh, I want pizza!”
Being able to connect the two, her reward behaviour of getting pizza as a child leading her to have the same reward behaviour as an adult, she was finally able to let the reward behaviour go.
What’s your food-reward story?
Rewarding ourselves with food is a conditioned behavior. And it’s really important to realize that.
Many of the women I work with, come to me thinking that there’s something wrong with them.
And for me, it’s really fundamental to let them know that it’s not them, it’s their conditioning.
It’s a behavior that’s been ingrained into us and behaviors are not us, they’re just behaviors.
That’s an important distinction.
AND since our behaviors are not us, they’ve simply learned a thing which they’ve integrated. This means they can also unlearn them and learn new things.
“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.”
What’s a new behavior you’d like to learn?
If you’d like to make healthier food choices, start with these 3 tips I share in my ebook, 3 Dieting Mistakes.